Graduation and Grief

CPA, Christ Presbyterian Academy, is the school all the Chapman kids have attended, and little Maria would have started there in the fall too. This past year though, both Caleb and Will withdrew to be able to be on the road with their Dad.

Katherine, a tutor who the Chapmans are so thankful for, began working with Caleb and Will on set days each week allowing them to continue their progression towards graduation even though they were not at CPA. So, because of this, Caleb wouldn’t have walked at CPA's graduation on Sunday night anyway, he has graduated... with homeschooling certification I think (after 11 years at CPA his Mom would add here) : )

Before the tragic event of this past week unfolded, Caleb was scheduled to have a party last nite with two other graduating friends, and sing at CPA’s graduation tonight, to celebrate with his class. It’s my understanding he’ll still sing tonight. (although I'm not sure how)

I've also been told that as is the tradition with every senior class, they would normally give a gift to the school upon their departure... but that this class has instead decided to give their class gift to Shaohannah's Hope in memory of Maria.

How do you go from grieving to celebrating? I know we all face this at some point, and I'm never sure how to navigate it. The Chapmans will try tonight, yet another opportunity to pray for this family with such heavy hearts right now.

If you'd like to congratulate the gradate, click here.

Comments

[Deeders]

I rest in your grace Lord though I don't understand why
the little girl you gave me is gone away
My heart is breaking for her
As I gaze into the sky
Surrounded by your all sufficient love

It seems like yesterday
When you chose to give her to us
and my feet were barely touching the earth
In my arms I would cradle this tiny little angel
Experiencing a Father's perfect love

Oh to see her again
is a dream that will be reality
to see her dance in the sky
To know she is watching over my life and waiting
Until together her and I will fly

The stars are brighter because she's in heaven
She's a reflection of God's almighty hand
She's jumping in the fields of heavens playground
Until I see her again

By, Deana Marie Watson, May 2008
Rest Peacefully Sweet Maria

[Connie]

You have ministered to us as well as to the Chapman family by so personally updating on what's happening with them this week. I'm so grateful for this "window" into their lives during this tragic time. We've been greatly impacted by Steven's ministry in several ways and have met him on a few occasions. This personal glimpse you have given us helps us to know how to pray even more for them. Thank you! Praying for you as well...

[cyntia]

I am so sorry for your loss. May God always keep you and your family.

[steve]

You have lived out such an example of love and support. Although we never like to see this type of tragedy, it has truly been the body of Christ coming together. It hurts to know the Chapman family has to go through this, our family has never felt so broken hearted even though we have never met the Chapmans. They have been an inspiration to so many of us, our thoughts and prayers have been with them each day since Wednesday night. Thanks for allowing us to be a small part of their family, we continue to pray for them each day.

[LMM]

Jim, you are most kind to take your precious time to allow us to be part of this beautiful family. I have marked my calendar for every 21st day of each month in honor of Maria, her family and our God. May God bless you, the entire Chapman family, all of their friends and associates, and all of the people who have written comments, especially those who have shared their own personal tragedies.

[Charlotte]

Wow... Caleb is going to perform tonight. This might be a great thing for him and a great opportunity for his friends to love and embrace him right now. I will be holding him and his family in prayer this evening as they celebrate graduation. So hard to go from one emotion to the next.

[Janele]

I'm confident that this is just the beginning of how God will work this tragedy for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. Down the road, the Chapmans will be able to look back and see God's hand in all of this- He is on the throne and He is in control. Nothing takes Him by surprise.

It will be wonderful in heaven to not only be reunited with loved ones who have gone before, but to truly see the impact of God working even the loss of our children for His glory.

[Daphne Taylor]

I tried posting this earlier but w/ no success. My prayers & thoughts have been with all of you (family and those of you who serve alongside them) during this difficult time. Your music and life has touched so many w/ your words of grace, mercy, hope & love and now, we are all wanting to encourage you with the very words you sing about. Please know that there are thousands around this world who are holding you & your family close to their hearts. When I 1st heard the news, my initial feeling was shock and intense grief for all of you and then immediately after, I said, "God, how are You going to be glorified in this family thru this?" The awesome thing, I know He will be - today, tomorrow, and the weeks and months ahead. Rest assured my prayers will always be with you.

[Shadybrook Acres]

I am just one of thousands lifting up the Chapman family and friends to the throne of God, especially Will Franklin. I know God is big enough to carry everyone through this difficult time and I'm praying for His amazing comfort to cover all. Amazingly, this is not something I just heard about, felt sad over and then went on with my life. Though I am a stranger, God has placed this on my heart continually. I will continue to pray as long as I bear this burden. I'm sure many others will too.

Like other folks who have commented here, I can relate somewhat to what the Chapmans are going through. My closest sister, who is also my best friend, lost her 4yo son in a car accident almost 12 years ago. I had never felt such grief before. It made me question all I believed about God's sovereignty and eternity. It seems the only place of sure footing is to TRUST even when we don't understand.

These tragedies help remind us that this time on earth is short and that we are awaiting a place prepared for us. I pray that that anticipated joy will eventually outweigh the grief.

[Carol Morris]

Thank you for taking care of this extremely difficult task of keeping us all informed of the past few days events. You have had a heavy burden placed on you and are doing it with excellence for the Lord. My family continues to lift you and the entire Chapman family up in prayers. We have Maria's picture on our computer as a background so we will never forget her and never forget to pray for the Chapman's. We love them so much, as they have played a huge part in the adoption of our daughter, Emma Grace, from China. We pray especially for Caleb tonight as he takes on this tremendous task. I think it's just a testimony as to how he's been raised by this wonderful family. God bless you all.

[Julie]

Thank you for updating fans on what is going on, it is a blessing to be able to pray for this family and stand alongside even if we don't know them.

[Dani]

Thank you so much for keeping us updated. I really appreciate it. God is so good. Hard to say those words going through something so difficult. But he is. He is sovereign and knew of this before Steven and Mary Beth were even born. He knew that this was going to be apart of their journey here on earth. They are strong and they will get through this but not alone. Their are thousand of people that are lifting them up in prayer constantly. I would go as far as to say that there is not a second that goes by that someone around the world is not lifting them up to the father. That is powerful. That is exactly the impact that they have had on this world. I am praying hard. Like I never have before. Coming closer to God then I have before. I worshiped this morning at church like I hadn't in a long time. God is being glorified. Thanks again for updated us.

Still praying hard,
Dani

[Melissa Melvin]

Thank you for updating us on the Chapman’s My prayers are and will remain with them I appreciate your ministry.

May God also grant you his peace and comfort as you grieve with the Chapman family.

[Kim Setzer]

We will continue to pray for all members of the Chapman family. We are coming up on the fourth anniversary of the loss of our son Joshua. We learned so many cool things about God and servanthood during that extremely difficult time. I'm so grateful for all that we learned. Hang on, God will do some amazing and at times very challenging things in your life from here on. You have a beautiful family. You are in our prayers.

[Kirsten Ward]

I will be praying for the family, and congratulations to Caleb for his accomplishment as well.

[Beka]

I know you aren't asking for it, but I want to thank YOU, Jim, for everything you've done. I know you're close to the Chapmans, and that you are feeling the pain of this loss as well, and yet you've been standing by and serving this precious family, and keeping us updated as well. I know it can't be easy.

As I found myself waking up multiple times last night, each time with the Chapman family having been in my "dream" (if you could call it that) and at the forefront of my mind, I realize that this is a burden that God has placed on my shoulders: to continue to pray for the Chapmans and those surrounding them. I have never felt so burdened for a person or family before, and I continue to lift them up in prayer.

[t o r i]

Mr. Jim, I'd like to thank you for giving me an opportunity to give my congrats to Caleb and giving us up dates on how you are doing and the Chapman family through these trials. Remember it's about direction, not perfection through this time. Seeing your faith through blogging has been such a huge encouragement to me. :o) Thank you so much. I'll close with this: "For the LORD God is a sun and shield; The LORD gives grace and glory; NO GOOD THING does He withhold from those who walk uprightly. O LORD of hosts, How blessed is the man who trusts in You!" -Psalm 84:11-12

[pam]

Jim~

Though I know it must be agonizing to put the words on the screen, I appreciate your efforts to keep us all up to date on what is happening with this precious family you serve.

Thank you so much for your efforts, for the strength only God can give you, and for the thoughtfulness of including millions of others in what God is doing through this tragic time.

You are a messenger, and I know our Lord is pleased with how you are representing Him.

May God give you comfort and peace this night, dear brother in Christ.

[The Townsend Family]

Jim,

Thanks for taking the initiative to post in Caleb's blog. I know he will appreciate the sentiment.
Your heart for the Chapmans shines through!

[Bethany]

Thank you for updating this blog and helping us know more specifically what to pray for.

[Alex and Alicia Berwick]

Dear Jim,

Words cannot express how close you have made us feel to these whom we are grieving with over these last several days. We are carrying each of you to Jesus and we will be praying for your strength and comfort as well. Thank you again from Texas
Alex, Alicia, Ryan, Carson, Collin and Anna Bei (adopted from China Sept 2008) Berwick

[Kelly @ Love Well]

Celebration and tears often seem to come back to back in God's economy.

May the joy of graduation and the upcoming wedding provide a much-needed lightening of the load.

[me in montana]

Still prayin for all of you..

[Kristi Cook]

Dear Chapman Family:

We sang this song this morning in church and I thought of your family..The words are so incredible..Your loss has touched so many..I am praying for you..Kristi

You hold my every moment, You calm my raging seas, You walk with me through fire, You heal all my disease, I trust in You, I trust in You..

I believe, Your my Healer, I believe, You are all I need, Oh Jesus, I believe, Your my Portion, I believe, Your more than enough for me, Jesus your all I need...

He is walking through the fire with each one of you...may God restore each of your hearts...and turn your morning into dancing..

[Ben B.]

Thanks for this wonderful summary. I've been following couple posts from a pastor in Seattle who wrote about hope in this tragic accident. It was the most read entry on Wordpress.com this past week.

http://eugenecho.wordpress.com/2008/05/23/where-is-the-hope-in-the-steven-curtis-chapman-tragedy/

[Katy]

Thank you, so much, Jim, for continuing to update us as we fall to our knees for this amazing family. Tonight I will also pray for you, that you will be sustained by the Lord in this unimaginable time of grieving for your friend. We have not forgotten that you have also suffered a loss, of this special little girl with the irresistible smile, and that your heart breaks every time you remember that call with Steven.

[Misty and Sarah]

Jim~
Thank you for keeping us updated. We know that you must experiencing your own since of loss as well and you still have concern for all of us brothers and sisters in the Lord. I was at a store today here in Missouri and I heard a checker singing a Christian Hymn under his breath so I said will you please pray for the Chapman family and I was getting ready to explain and he said miss I already am! Thank you Lord for the spiritual bond in Christ! Praying for all of you~ Misty Peterson

[Mandy]

Jim,
Even though we don't personally know the Chapman family, many of us feel that they are a part of our own families. You can't share your heart in music like Steven does and not expose yourself and your feelings. I think this is one of the multiple reasons so many of us feel like we know him and his family. As a result, we greive deeply with them. I've read time and time again where folks have said they were awakened in the night with the Chapmans on their hearts (my sister and I have experienced the same nudging from the Holy Spirit to get up and pray.) So thank you for sharing specific ways for us to pray. They don't owe us anything and certainly not a window into what can be a very private thing such as grieving, but please thank them for allowing you to share with us. We all sincerely love them and are indebted to you for allowing us the avenue to check on them. We will continue to pray for you as well. You have the very difficult task of penning the words that somehow become more real as they are seen in black and white. Tonight I pray for sweet sleep for all of you. Blessings.

[Cynde]

God placed Maria on this earth for five years. It does not matter where she was or what she was doing, that was the end of her time here. How wonderful it is that the Chapman's adopted this child and raised her to love the Lord. If she had remained in China, her God would not have been the one true God, the Lord Jesus Christ, and she would have perished. Although sad beyond measure, they can rest in the knowledge that she lives in Heaven today.

[The Carmody's]

Jim,
Thank you for keeping us in the loop as you are able and as it makes sense.
We are praying for you as well Jim as you also deal with the loss, and find the Grace available to press on with what needs to be done, all the while being such a blessing to the family.

God Bless
The Carmody's

[Praying Without Ceasing]

As we pray without ceasing please let us know how Will Frankin is doing, God is waking us up in the middle of the night with Will on our hearts and in our prayers!

Deut. 31:6

[mirna from Mexico]

Thanks for sharing, please keep posting.

[Sandra Garrison]

It seems like Satan has planned and tried to execute an all point attack on the Chapman family. However, this family continues to show that God is real and his faithfulness never ends. Thank you for sharing moments in their lives. This family encourages us not only by song, but by demonstrations of real active faith. My heart cries for them and their sorrow. I can not imagine the pain that they are feeling. My prayers are with the entire family, especially the son; that he will not believe the lies that Satan plans to give him. And also, praying for all those including you, that surround this family; that you will be glimpses of light and hope in such a dark time. I am assured that God will see them this time and I believe that his Glory will shine through for many to see.

[Wendy Lewellen]

Although I haven't posted before now, the Chapman family has been in my thoughts and prayers since I first heard Thursday morning. Steven's music has been a part of my life for 20 years, and my heart aches for this family. As a mother, I cannot imagine what grief they must feel. Please tell them they are deeply loved and constantly prayed for.

Father, you know this family and how much they love you, and I pray that You will hold them close and pour out your love and comfort to them. You are an awsome God, and worthy of praise, even when we don't understand. Although we don't always understand Your ways, we know that You can and will work everything together for good. Father, I know the Chapman's trust You, and I pray that You will carry them through this. Lord, hold their son especially tight. An accident can happen so quickly, and he needs You more than ever. Surround him with your presence, and continue to give him strength and courage. The enemy will try to use this to destroy them, but we know that Satan has already been defeated by You, and he has NO place in this family's lives. Lord, you alone can use this to glorify Your name, and I know the Chapman's want to glorify and praise You. In Your son's precious and holy name, Amen.

This entire family has truly been an inspiration to me and so many others. My favorite poem is Footprints, and I know that our faithful God is carrying this family right now.

Thank you Jim, for allowing the Chapman fans to be a small part of this tragedy. Your faithfulness and support are much appreciated.

[Paige]

Sadly As they have to grieve and celebrate i am going through the exact same thing. Yesterday was my brothers graduation and the day before was his open house and i found out that day that my best friend and her boyfriend died in a house fire. so i know just a little big of what the chapman family are going through. my heart goes out to them during this time.

[Karen B.]

Beautiful Scars (the bonus track on This Moment) just came up in my ITunes mix. It hit me that the whole Chapman family, but especially Will F. now have been taken deep into the reality behind this song. The whole lyrics are below (found on a fan site..., I hope they're accurate, I didn't check too carefully). But this one line just stopped me dead in my tracks:

Beautiful scars, turning the marks
Of our pain into beautiful scars

This will help me now to pray. May the Lord indeed turn Will Franklin and the whole families deep pain into beautiful scars.

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Sit here with me
And tell me your story
Even if it breaks my heart
Let me see Your scars

Shame will whisper
Oh but we can't listen
'Cause these are the stories that make us who we are
And I love who You are, and Your

Beautiful scars, Your beautiful scars
Reminders of the wounded love that has carried us this far
Beautiful scars, turning the marks
Of our pain into beautiful scars

For us, bruised and broken
For us, He was forsaken
Our wounded Healer suffered to set us free
We see in His hands and His feet

Beautiful scars, beautiful scars
Reminders of the wounded love that has carried us this far
Beautiful scars, turning the marks
Of our pain into beautiful scars

See in His hands and His feet

Beautiful scars, beautiful scars
Reminders of the Saviour's love that has carried us this far
Beautiful scars, turning the marks
Of our pain into beautiful scars

Oh how I love Your beautiful scars
So beautiful, so beautiful
Beautiful scars

[Josefa Goldsboro NC]

We all prayed Saturday when it was time for the service. The family and friendswill be in our prayers for a long time to come because being in the funeral business we know that after a few weeks the really hard times come; when the attention disapears and it is time to adjust to a new 'normal'. On behalf of all of us we appreciate the updates. Steven's music has touched all of us in so many ways and we are all part of the family of God so we all hurt and want to be there for the family and friends.

[Joan Lucas]

God is sufficient - be still.

[Karen B.]

Back on the topic of Caleb's graduation -- I hadn't realized that he and his band, The Following had recorded two EPs. I came across a link in one of the comments on the graduation congrats blog.

I spent some time listening tonight. WOW!! What incredible depth of the lyrics. The songs are so powerful (and Caleb's voice is awesome!) Steven better watch out! LOL! Soon his boys may be topping him on the charts!!

How joyous to be able to contemplate that happy possibility, and also to hear songs Caleb has written to realize how deep his faith goes and to have greater confidence that he and Will will get through these days clinging to Jesus and His grace.

If anyone else out there was as clueless about these new EPs as I was, here are the links:

http://www.myspace.com/thefollowing
http://calebchapman.com/

Congrats Caleb! It is clear God has already been at work in your life and heart and it will be exciting to see the future He has for you.

[Brian McFarlin, Mt. Juliet, TN]

Jim,

thank you so much for keeping all of us updated as to how the family is doing. It is so great to see that they are surrounded by friends like you. it is also great to hear that in the midst of this tragedy the family is holding on to the Lord for their strength. My family and I pray for the Chapmans often. I am looking forward to see what the Lord will do!

I look forward to reading your next blogs.

Have a great day!

Brian
Psalm 91
Is 40:31

[Freyner G]

We also have been inspired by the selected lyrics of his songs and the appropiate performing for years. I cannot as a father of 2 girls and a boy; even imagine the pain and grief that the Chapmans are experiencing, I will continue bringing a prayer before God in your favor. May the truth of knowing the safe place of Glory where your child is now, serve as a conforting fact to rest assure she's safe and happy and may God help us to make it there to enjoy one day the fullness of happiness with our loved ones. God bless you and I really hope this terrible situation may help us to look at our childrens eyes and love then as God's gifts that they are and as Steven says in one of his songs, see the fingerprints of God on them. God bless you.

[Krista G.]

While I know that it cannot begin to compare to losing a child, I lost of young friend of mine last year to Leukemia. Although my friend never laid his earthly eyes on it, God laid it upon my heart to make my friend a quilt covered with words of love and encouragement from his family and friends. On that quilt were these words:
Turn your eyes to heaven,
Lift up your heart and pray.
Turn your eyes to heaven,
Take refuge in his open arms,
Turn your eyes to heaven,
He’ll carry you home on love’s great wings.
No matter what they say he’ll be with you each day,
Just trust in him, you’ll make it through,
And you’ll fulfill his perfect plan.
Turn your eyes to heaven.

I hope that you will take comfort in the overwhelming love and prayer that wraps around your family as your go through this time of grief, God bless.

[Michael Wilson]

When i heard the incredibly sad news about Maria from my local christian radio station (LightFM Melbourne)I couldn,t beleive it. I went to Stephens web site and sadly i discovered this tragedy to be true. My deepest sympathies and prayers go with the entire Chapman family as this tragic reality takes its toll on your lives.

[Matt Simmons]

Thank for keeping those of us outside the inner circle informed. We are desperate for information about how our beloved brothers and sisters are doing and you are doing a mighty work by confirming to us that our prayers are being answered. May God BLESS you all abundantly for putting aside your own personal business to attend to the Chapmans' and also for keeping us in the loop. I know the days must be long but the hours short and I wanted you to know how much we appreciate your finding the time to write us. Thank you. MCS

[MJ]

I am deeply sorry for your loss. I can only offer my prayers and thoughts on your behalf. I pray that the Chapman family and their friends remember I Peter 5:10 & 7,. But the GOD of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen,settle you. Casting all you care upon him;for he careth for you.

[The Vander-Plas Family - Lubbock, Texas]

Jim~

Thank you for explaining everything. I came on this blog a little late to pray specifically for that graduation service, but our prayers still went out, as they have every day since the accident.

Hoping that everything went well, and congratulations to Caleb!

Kristen Vander-Plas
for the family

[Clay, Tanya, Corinna, Matthew, Carmen (home 2005 w/YOUR help!), and Harry]

Thank you for sharing. Being able to pray specifically is such a gift. We feel like we know the Chapman family and our hearts are broken for them. It may be too personal, but I think many of us are so desperate for information on Will. How can we pray for him?

Also, you have asked for us to continue to pray, which we most assuredly will do. Will the PO Box for condolences be functional long term? We would like to periodically send cards and thoughts.

[Suzanne]

Jim,
Pastor and author, John Piper's, daughter-in-law, Molly, is doing a series on her blog entitled "How to Help a Grieving Friend." She and her husband's 2nd child was stillborn. It is wonderful information.

Here's the site: www.thepipers.wordpress.com . I hope that is helpful.

Thanks for serving the Chapmans!

[Kelly]

I'm having a hard time putting my feelings into words but wanted to say that I've been so deeply touched by Maria's death. I also wanted to say that the Chapman family has been and will remain in my prayers.

Thank you, Jim, for keeping us posted on everything. My prayers are with you as well.

In God's eternal peace,
Kelly G.

[Alice Myskowski]

I am sorry to hear of your tragic loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you that you feel the Lord's presence and comfort during this time. Please accept my sympathies and know that you all are on my heart.

Love Alice

[Stephanie Buteyn]

To the Chapman family....
I want to express my sincere condolences in the loss of your precious daughter. I only want to say this, remember the words of Psalm 23. I know that this is a difficult time for all of you. Especially to Caleb. I know how much you will miss her. My prayers go out to all of you in the loss of this dear girl. May God be with you. I should know, I have been there too. I hurt too. And that's only because I have Downs Syndrome.

[Tim Duff]

Thanks so much for the updates. Prayers will continue to go up for the family during this tragic time.

[betsyb]

Dear Jim,

Thank you so much for sharing with us. You will be in our prayers, along with the Chapman family.

We lost our 15 year old son six years ago. We have seen God redeem what was our normal into a new normal..and can testify to His incredible faithfulness in the midst of unbelievable sorrow. One thing that helped me tremendously, especially after the rest of the world moved forward, was to keep a tiny journal with me at all times. I could write down my thoughts, prayers, memories any time they came to mind. Waves of grief can blindside you...and it was a blessing to be able to write.

We will hold the Chapmans close to our hearts, and you as well as you minister to them.

Weeping may endure for a night, but [a shout of] joy comes in the morning. (Ps 30:5)

God bless,

Bryan and Betsy Babcock
Franklin, New York

[Larry, Amy & Tyler Abers]

Dear Steven Curtis Chapman & Family,
Hi!
We just all want to let you all know that you're all in our Thoughts & Prayers Everyday!
We were so sad to hear what happened to you all!;o(
We both know that Maria is safely in Heaven with JESUS CHRIST!:o)

We also know that God's going to get you all through this very difficult time in your lives.
Congratulations to Emily on her Wedding Engagement and to Caleb on His HighSchool Graduation!:O)
Steven you're one of our Favorite Male Christian Singers!:o)
~Take Care! xx..
~May God continue to Bless & Comfort you all~
~The Abers Family(Larry, Amy & Tyler).

[Jennifer Doughty]

Dear Chapmans,

I just need to let you know how grieved I am for your family. You have touched so many people through your heart for China. My family is one of those. I heard an interview years ago on Focus on the Family about your first adoption. I knew then, that this was a path I would be on. After three bio boys, we are now walking that path of adoption. We have been logged in for a year now. I just want to tell you that you are in my prayers, and my heart aches for you. We do not understand the ways of God, but know that His plan is greater.

God be with you-
The Doughtys
Richard, Jennifer, Bryce, Braden and Cade
Baton Rouge, LA

[Kelly V]

Dear Chapman Family,
My heart is so sad for your family's loss of sweet Maria. You are continually in my thoughts and prayers. The road ahead will be difficult, but our Mighty God will hold you close in His loving arms.
God Bless ~
Kelly V.
Corona, CA

[Eric & Natalie Rasmussen]

Dear Chapman family,

Our family is praying for you daily and will continue to do so! We are praying for God's supernatural strength to carry you. Seeing Maria's video brought us joy. She is beautiful. We will look forward to meeting her someday in heaven.

Eric & Natalie Rasmussen
Portland, Oregon

[Kelly Cox]

Dear Chapman Family,
Congratulations Caleb on graduating! I was very saddened to hear about your loss and my prayers and thoughts are with you.

[Alice Rogers Acosta]

Steve & Marybeth,
Our thoughts and never ending prayers go out to your family. Your cuz Alice Rogers Acosta & family.

[Ron Prevatte]

Dear Chapman Family,

Please know that we are lifting your family up daily. Sadly, we understand your loss as lost our son, Aaron in an auto accident 4 years ago at the age of 19. It was Steven's song "With Hope" that got me through many sleepless nights and grieving moments during our grief process. It was those words "So we can cry with hope, we can say goodbye with hope
'Cause we know our goodbye is not the end
We can grieve with hope, because we believe with hope
There’s a place
By God’s grace
There’s a place where we’ll see your face again.

We chose to place part of those words on our sons grave marker. Please know Steven of your encouragment to me in my time of need and now I lift you and your family up in this crisis in your lives. God Bless.

Ron and Treva Prevatte
Prattville, Alabama

[Neta Braun]

Dear Chapman family:

I was saddened to hear about the loss of your precious daughter. My heart aches for you. I would like to share a few words with you that a grief counsellor once shared with me when I was grieving: "He said that the greater the pain of grief when you loose someone, the greater the love was between you and that person while they were still here". That has brought me a lot of comfort over the years. I wish I could tell you that time will heal all wounds, but unfortunately it doesn't. It will get easier with time, but there will always be days when tears will roll easily and that's O.K. And when you face days (which you will) where you feel like you can't find words to pray because the pain is so great, that's when you get your friends to pray for you. God bless you and give you strength during this journey of grief and sorrow. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[DeeDee]

I just listened to "CINDERELLA" for the first time. I was left tearful and speechless . How precious are these moments. You will dance with her again at a glorious celebration. "weeping may tarry for the night, but joy comes in the morning"

Peace to you and your beatiful family.

[Lois Kearney]

My heart and prayers go out to the entire Chapman family.I pray God's peace and comfort to surround each one of them.I admire them for continuing to stand upon God's Word at a time when it would be so easy to say it's not worth it.But then we as believers are no more immune from sorrow than the world,the key for us as Christians is while we are human and yes we cry for that precious loved one who's gone,we can smile through our tears and know that we know that we know that God is still on the throne and that we are not alone,that He is with us and will surround us with those of like faith to encourage us.I love you all and while we all grieve with you,we rejoice that Maria is now with Jesus and that all is not lost,that we all will see her again someday and like the hymn says,"What a day,glorious day,that will be".

[Dale Baker]

I am reminded of God' sufficient grace as the waves of emotion come. One minute laughing, the next overcome by uncontrollable sorrow. I know PERSONALLY know how you feel Caleb. Jesus is more real now than ever for you, and is holding on to you tightly. Even though the "why" goes unanswered. Your disappointment is nothing God cant handle. Stay close to your mom and dad, they need you, and your family needs you. You are extremely valued and loved.

[Holly Knowles]

I am so sorry for your loss of your precious Maria. This life is strange and confusing sometimes and one wonders how to even stand up and walk a straight line during times like these. I have found that these are the moments that I need my family and friends the most...the times that I just need to feel Christ's love for me through them. In those times I know Jesus is loving on me and holding me up so I can keep going. My prayers are with you all...that you can be that support for one another. God will carry you through this storm and you will find your way to joy again. Love to you all.

[Pastor Stanley Vasu]

Dear Steve
we pray for God's comfort on your family in this hour of grief. You have blessed us and May God bless you now with peace and comfort. I am sharing a poem I wrote .I trust it would bless you.

Pastor Stanley Vasu
INDIA

AMAZING GRACE
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When we face life’s riddle
He is with us in the middle
When in fear we huddle
He comforts us with a cuddle

When we do not grumble
And our faith rises like a bubble
We will see all our problems crumble
And lo! and behold our blessings double

Though storms rise and thunders rumble
Though the earth quake and rocks tumble
Though we fail and often stumble
His grace is with the truly humble

For the very hairs of our head are numbered
And He that keepeth us has never slumbered
When with a load of care we are cumbered
He manifests His Amazing Grace to be wondered.

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[Jason Summers]

I can't possibly express my sorrow for the Chapman's. Steven's music has changed and continues to change my life. Lyrics to many of Steven's songs play over and over in my mind. Since it ain't likely I'll get to sing and play with Steven in this life, I'll wait til I can meet Jesus, Steven, and Maria in the next. Maybe there will be a moment or two I can break away from praising God to do this. At any rate, Steven, you are the man (God's man)! Following God where ever He takes you, doing whatever He shows you. I'm truly sorry for Maria's loss. It's been said many times already how you'll see her again. What hope you/we truly have in Christ. Thanks for the inspiration to live for Him I've received through your music and stories (sometimes I like those best). As the apostle Paul has written, Peace be to the brethren, and love with faith, from God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ. Grace be with all them that love our Lord Jesus Christ in sincerity. Amen.

[Isabel Valdez]

I am so sad and so sorry for this tragic accident. I am praying for all of you. Please know that you have touched my life with beautiful music about life and most especially our Lord and Saviour.
You all are being thought of often.
May the God of all comfort be your comfort today and forever more.
Blessings.

[theresa]

Dear Family
I just lost my dad in March-I know the hurt may seem unbearable but I also know that just like my daddy-Maria is dancing with her heavenly father & other members of her family-and thinking of you guys.
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[Jackie]

To say I'm sorry dosen't feel like it is enough. Being a mom of daughters,this is a fear you have,with always. Maria is with our Lord,and watching you all.. My prayers are with you

[Jeri Gerhart]

Chapman Family,

How I do so understand your grief. I too have lost, mine were twins.
It's now 11 years, and yes, time does heal, BUT I still remember the raw feeling of grief and the longing. I remember the desperate lonesomeness, and the crying out to Jesus with what little sanity I had left.

You know, in a dream, almost a year after their loss, God let me see my sons, they were no longer children, but glorified and glowing. No words were shared, but the peace I needed so desperately came, that night.

My condolences, my thoughts, my prayers. Now, a mom of 3!

[Jeri Gerhart]

Chapman Family,

How I do so understand your grief. I too have lost, mine were twins.
It's now 11 years, and yes, time does heal, BUT I still remember the raw feeling of grief and the longing. I remember the desperate lonesomeness, and the crying out to Jesus with what little sanity I had left.

You know, in a dream, almost a year after their loss, God let me see my sons, they were no longer children, but glorified and glowing. No words were shared, but the peace I needed so desperately came, that night.

My condolences, my thoughts, my prayers. Now, a mom of 3!

[Robert Womack]

There are, of course no words that anyone can say that can take away the pain in your hearts because of this loss. It would be presumptuous of any of us to try to explain away why this happened or to offer trite justifications. But there are some things I feel led to tell you, nonetheless. The first is that we are all parts of the same body, and when one part suffers, we all suffer. We hurt with you and your family, Steven, and we wonder with you at this seemingly inexplicable tragedy. We know your pain, my brother, because it is our pain, too, and we weep with you. We pray for you and we ask our loving Father to give you comfort and peace. But more than this, we ask you to take strength in the words our dear brother, Paul, the apostle, who reminded us that we grieve not like those without hope, but we know that one day soon we will all stand together, reunited, before the laughing face of our Savior as He welcomes all of us Home eternally. Maria will be standing with us and your joy will be made full at that reunion. You are all in my prayers, my dear friends, and I encourage you to love one another well and look to the Savior. God bless you.

[Rev.Susan Wallace Moriarty]

Stephen, MaryBeth, and family,

My prayers continue to be with you all. I want to recommend a book to you, that you may have already heard about. It is called "A Grace Disguised." By Jerry Sittser, a Professor at Whitworth College in Washington state. He lost his wife, mother and daughter in a car accident. The book is about his grief journey as a person of faith. The snippetts of your interview for Good Morning America made me think of it, when you stated that this experience has caused you to ask questions of faith. One of the things I loved about his book is that he does deal with the tough questions of faith, and he comes out in a strong position. I am a hospice Chaplain, and have recommended this book many times to our families. It is the BEST book on Grief I have read, out of dozens. (No, I am not getting paid roylaties for saying this! :-)

Again, my prayers are with you as you grieve, that you will be comforted by the God who loves you all and has promised to never leave or forsake you.

Susan

[Daniel Springs]

The Lord gave me a song for the Chapman family this morning.

A SETTING OF SILVER (CHAPMAN FAMILY) 8/6/08

Sometime it hurts inside
To know you care
When we can’t go any further
When the day is long
You show us your love

When it hurts to wake up
When the skies fill with rain
When everything in our being seems the same
I sing to you

There’s an answer in the Son of Man
There’s a face that looks at yours
And a song in his hand
For you to sing

Miracles occur when you look at me
Like waterfalls of grace
Sprinkling His goodness
Like towers of love
In settings of silver

Thank you God for making it so relevant to their lives, they are such special people.

[Min. Joseph Rascoe]

Dear Mr.Chapman
This is Min.Joseph Rascoe with the Good Shepherd Singers. I was sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter and the emotional pain and grief that it has caused in your family. But as I was praying one day it was like it hit me, and the Lord said that your song Cinderella was more than just a song. It was God's way of trying to prepare you for the pain that lie ahead. Taht is truly a special song and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

May God Bless You

Minister Joseph Rascoe